Learning to laugh at myself!

Why Is Time Your Master How many times have you moaned about the past that controls you? The memories . . . good and bad, The incidents  . . . bad and worse, The experiences . . . worse and horrific. How many times have you yearned for the future that you can't have? The dream that is unreachable, The joys that you shouldn't deserve, The love that is not quite yours. Caught between the plumbline of extremes, from the past to the future, never satisfied, always wishing, pleading, making excuses and settling for the mediocre! Time has become YOUR master and its controls the life that you have. Each step that you take and each decision that you make, draws tension between the past and the future. They are caught in a dance that  will not release  you. - Change is about TIME - "Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can't buy more hours; scientists c...

31/12/2017 WITH COSMIC BINOCULARS Fear of the future is like a rustle in the long grass ahead of us . . . Each new year, you are asked to approach it with an expectation of joy and wonderment. What you are not told, is how to release and let go of the wagon filled with guns, ammunition, bombs, machetes and bullets. Lets add to that some tranquilisers, sleeping pills, a handful of laxatives and three boxes of pain killers for just in case . . . that you are pulling behind you. When you reach that precipice of one year and look across to the precipice of the new year, with the swing bridge between, which extends over the canyon of good fortune , you stop to calculate the distance, the effort, your willingness and whether the bridge can bear the load. You cannot help but factor in the wagon that you have pulled for so long and over so many miles. It contains everything that you know, that you have been through, the memories and what you are familiar with and you are lo...

28/12/2017 PLAYING A DIFFERENT TUNE Heaven is like a beautiful home that is adorned with golden candlesticks, beautiful furniture, rich and colourful rugs, crystal glasses and chandeliers. Now imagine that in this lifetime that you have received an invitation to go home to a feast that awaits you and you feel really honoured and your cells start tingling all over . . . Now, you have read the invitation but have forgotten to read the fine print at the bottom of the gold-leafed invitation. It states that in order for you to enter through the door to rooms of heaven, you need to take off your muddy boots. In your excitement, you clean up and pick your favourite dress or suit and you do your hair with all the styles and gels that you can muster. You place any jewellery that you have on your fingers, toes, neck, ears and wrists and anywhere else that you think heaven would want to notice. You pick your favourite shoes and they match your clothes and you feel ready to...

26/12/2017 HOW DID YOU GET OUT OF BED? Lets pretend that all of the saboteurs are not a part of your life ie: - Binge Drinking - Binge Drugging - Binge Sexing - Binge Partying - Binge Stressing  Humans are gifted with the most incredible ability to direct their reality, yet fail to execute this ability for many reasons. Beliefs, ignorance, apathy, lack of knowledge, tiredness, coping mechanisms, emotional shame are only a handful of some of the reasons, but they all come down to understanding. The worst ' so-called ' sin or indiscretion, can be seen through a different lens . . . . . . a more compassionate one! How do you get out of bed? The first thing that I would do, is to go to bed with the right attitude - Why?   Your intention to have a great night's sleep and awaken fresh and vibrant in the morning has an accumulative effect and done over time, balances the body system in ways that you cannot imagine.  But with the saboteurs, this i...

25/12/2017 IF YOU THINK - YOU STINK . . . . . . or so a Tibetan teacher would say. Silence is the nature of the master commander, Silence is the calming of the waters and the first footstep on them, Silence is the pause before you speak, where volumes can appear  and teach you to tread lightly. Silence ushers in the wisdom of stillness and knows that not all words create, SIlence knows that many words destroy . . . Silence allows the adjustment that we need to respond impeccably, And Silence is in itself a powerful force. Silence is our best friend and saves us from verbal entrapment, Silence knows, Silence knows that if we had nothing of value to say,  then we should  perhaps  not speak  for twenty years. Silence carries our dreams and holds them close where none may find them, Silence protects and disarms those bent on chatter and idle gossip, Silence knows that change is imminent, And one invites the other. ...

24/12/2017 iMAGINE ALL THE DYNAMICS Herein lies the tale of all the ages - Relationships are a large part of change and whilst we are going back and forth and getting stuck in ' she did it ' and ' he did it ', the relationship goes on and long after it has ended, it still goes on -  except that it will have picked up a few extra f-words in the mix.  There is always a trinity in any relationship and it is like a cosmic dance. There is YOU There is ME and then there is the  SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND ME. This space between us may not have a body, and it may not have five senses but it does have awareness and seeks to evolve and grow.  It is reliant on the input from both YOU and ME and survives on what we feed it. If we replenish it with  - nutritious minerals such as: love, patience and forgiveness, - delicious snacks such as: listening, communication and gratitude  - delightful treats such as: trust, perseverance and honesty ...

What Is Wrong With Me? I am amazed at the amount of times that I am asked by people, ' what is wrong with me ?' Almost every time, I want to answer, ' nothing !' On the odd occasion, I feel tempted to reply, ' everything ' - but that is for another topic! You are relentless with yourselves and you refuse to let go of the pains, the hardships, the agonies, the self-flagellation and the reasons why you are so bad and not good enough. If every human, who is drawn towards an inward search for purpose or spiritual growth, is handed a red rose with a stem of thorns, it is guaranteed that most will grab the rose and allow it to dig its thorns into their flesh. . . . why? They feel that there must be compensation, punishment, payment or sacrifice for every piece of heaven that they ask for. Those that realise that the rose can be placed in a vase and seen but not touched, know that beauty can be experienced without pain and suffering. It is the...